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Children: Visitation vs. Custody

san-diego-child-custodyIssues surrounding children -- custody and support in particular -- can be some of the most contentious elements in a divorce, but it serves your kids best if you can work things out. Start by learning about how child support is calculated, how judges make decisions about parenting time, and how to work together to do what's best for your children.  Here at A Fair Way Mediation we can help answer these questions and work with both parties to come to an equal agreement.

San Diego Mediation is Easier on Your Children

A contested divorce is wrought with conflict, and we know this has a negative impact on children who are dealing with their parents' divorce. Even when your intentions are good, realize that it's your lawyer's job to do everything in his or her power to fight for you and your interests. This creates a situation where the children are unavoidably - even if unintentionally - caught in the middle. Instead, mediation focuses on what's best for the children and teaches you as parents how to separate your own interests from theirs.

A Mediator is Neutral

As a well-trained, professional mediator,  Rich Gordon will not take sides. Instead, the purpose of meeting together is to work out a plan for moving forward. Instead of spending a lot of time rehashing the past, you'll discover new ways to work together in the present.

The Mediation Process is Free of Blame

When you're blaming one another for events leading up to the divorce, you become adversaries. This makes it very hard to then work together effectively on raising your children. Using a mediator can help you set aside the urge to blame one another and focus on developing new skills for collaborating as you create a parenting plan you'll both agree on and adhere to.

Mediation Focuses on the Future

You both love your children and want what is best for them. The mediation process focuses on the future and creating a workable plan that allows the children to have meaningful, dynamic relationships with both parents.

Here are some questions that we will delve in to:

1.  Will both parents be able to make decisions which affect the health, education and welfare of the children?

2.  How will physical custody of the children be divided after the divorce?
    a. What percentage of time will each parent have with the child or children?
    b. Will special arrangements be made for child visitation during the holidays?
    c. How much vacation time will a parent be able to share with the child or children?

3.  Will one of the parents be allowed to move away from San Diego with the children?

4.  How much communication will there be between parent and child when the child is in custody of the other parent?

5.  Who will be responsible for dropping off and picking up the children when physical child custody switches between the parents?

6.  In what extra-curricular activities will the children be allowed to participate?

7.  Who pays for the extra-curricular and after school activities of the children?